Published: 16th January 2021
Should you emote out? Here's when it is the correct time to show your emotions in public
Is it okay to show your emotions in public? This week The Coach tells us when displaying emotions is correct and when it is not at all
I am being a little dramatic with my opening line as I’m going to be discussing showing emotions in public in today’s column. Recently cricketer Siraj cried when our National Anthem was being played and he later said that he remembered his father. Is it too dramatic to show emotions in public? Well... I’ll address these and more today.
The first basic aspect we all need to understand is the fact that WE, humans, are all emotional beings. The only difference between us is HOW and HOW MUCH emotions we express. This is what leads to us being branded as an INTROVERT, EXTROVERT, DRAMA QUEEN, STONE COLD or EXPRESSIONLESS. And it is mainly based on our EXPOSURE and EXPERIENCE(s).
The million-dollar question!
So, is it okay to show emotions in public? The GENUINE and SIMPLE answer in my opinion is YES! I’ve always been an advocate of being our real selves rather than portray something that we are not. An acquaintance questioned me recently as I was sharing a cup of coffee with a security guard opposite to a coffee joint. I replied, “I’ve reached this level and will reach greater heights because of being
myself and not thinking of who’s who or what others like you, will think!” I wasn’t actually offended. I unknowingly had shown my frustration and anger in public though it was for a RIGHT CAUSE. It didn’t even occur to me that there were people around and I just went about my day. But here’s what happened in the background: One, I had shown anger in public. Two, I had also made others around me aware of both my temper and my beliefs and lastly, I might have lost an acquaintance.
The issue today... like, follow, and subscribe!
Now let’s take the same situation and remove the genuineness out of the equation. I would’ve been overly loud and made sure that people around me take notice and praise me for my actions. But one thing that most people forget is that other people will eventually figure out that you’re PUTTING ON A SHOW rather than meaning what you say and definitely will figure out that you’re desperate for attention! This behavior, ladies and gentlemen, is what most of us are being forced into because of social media and has brought us to the brink of forgetting our real identities!
Are genuine intentions the only things that matter?
Not to sound complacent, but my answer would still be a resounding YES! If emotions are NATURALLY exhibited in public, others around you will RELATE TO YOU as a human being and they too will EMPATHISE with you.
When genuine intentions are missing, it leads to individuals FAKING emotions in public with devious intentions like PLAYING WITH THE FEELINGS of others, TRYING TO EXPLOIT/MANIPULATE the situation, or simply TRYING TO CRAVE FOR ATTENTION. These are the behaviors that we should ensure never to cultivate and also to discourage others. That’s when we can be courteous enough to go lend a shoulder to someone who is crying in public or pacify someone who’s blowing their lid off in public. Until then, I guess we’ll always be suspicious of each individual’s intentions.
Adarsh Benakappa Basavaraj