Published: 28th November 2020
Simplify and amplify life with four agreements: How to always do your best and take action without fear
Pro Tip: Always do your best. Enjoy expressing yourself and taking action without fear. When you do your best, you enjoy the process and life fully
Bhaiyya, you mentioned the book The Four Agreements last week,’ said Rinku, ‘What’s it about?’
‘It’s about how we make many fear-based agreements with ourselves and complicate our lives,’ said Rakesh. ‘By making the four agreements and practising them, we can reclaim the magic in our lives. We’ve discussed three agreements – ‘Be impeccable with your word’, ‘Don’t take anything personally’ and ‘Don’t make assumptions’. The fourth is ‘Always do your best.’
‘You mean, push ourselves all the time?’ asked Rinku.
‘Doing our best is doing just enough,’ said Rakesh. ‘If we try to be perfect, we cannot do our best because we judge and punish ourselves for not being perfect, which interferes with the process. We must understand that our best is different at different times and be gentle with ourselves.’
‘How do we know we’re doing enough?’ asked Rahul.
‘When we’re doing our best, we enjoy doing whatever we’re doing,’ said Rakesh. ‘We act wholeheartedly, express fully and do things because we love doing them. We don’t do things out of fear of failure or for reward. Another measure that we’re doing our best is when we accept ourselves fully, whatever the outcome.’
‘But why should we do our best, bhaiyya, if not for reward?’ asked Rahul.
‘Simply because we enjoy our life more,’ said Rakesh. ‘There’s no self-judgment, self-abuse and regret. Our every action is about living, loving and being happy. We enjoy every moment of the process and by doing so, improve our chances of rewards. On the other hand, when we expect a reward, we don’t enjoy the action and, consequently, cannot do our best.’
‘How do the other three agreements help us do our best, bhaiyya?’ asked Rinku.
‘We’re in our ideal state to express ourselves when our word is impeccable when we’re free of assumptions and we’re not taking things personally. We love ourselves in that state instead of judging ourselves and others, which drains our energy,’ said Rakesh.
‘Is it as simple as that, bhaiyya?’ asked Rinku.
‘We complicate our lives with our fear-based agreements,’ said Rakesh. ‘The four agreements simplify and amplify life. We’re here to be happy, to act on our unique ideas and to express ourselves without fear. Taking action is being alive. Make everything a ritual, enjoy every action — small and big — and the most mundane acts of our lives become grand performances.’