Published: 21st November 2020
Don't be a sore loser like Donald Trump. If you do fail, fail with grace
This week, The Coach tells us how losing in something teaches us about winning and why we should introspect after to be better. And he used his own life story to teach us this important lesson
Winning! The adrenaline rush, the exhilarating feeling and the sense of achievement that follows is something that we all crave. Winning is an absolute necessity in life and it isn’t easy. I’ve not just seen but have personally experienced too, that most of the time when we do something with utmost hard work, intense dedication, 100% efforts, perfect planning and leaving nothing to chance, REALITY BITES and we still fail! Well...C’est La Vie! Does that mean that we always have to win? IS LOSING SO BAD? Well...my experience is completely contrary and I’d say DON’T BE LIKE TRUMP! (Just taking a PUNny jab at him losing the US Presidential Elections recently and his behaviour after).
Nobody likes a SORE LOSER! Yes! Losing or handling defeat isn’t easy. But if it isn’t handled with GRACE, it’ll be written all over your face. It also passes on a subliminal message that you’re not a sportive person. If you think, ‘Who Cares?’ I’m afraid there’s a devastating ripple effect that this leads to. One thing that we all need to understand and realise is that ups and downs are a constant in life. The longer we sulk or exhibit rage, the more we’ll be stuck on the same page.
One line to seal the deal...Take a couple of minutes to recall your icons or idols and try to imagine how they’ve handled defeat. You’re sure to realise that the way they handle loss or defeat is one of the reasons why you have made them your role model in the first place!
I’m a very focused person and definitely a perfectionist. I have sleepless nights when things don’t go according to plan. Plus, I can never digest the fact when I don’t know about something.
In spite of all these characteristic traits, I failed twice during my educational jour ney and lost two years in my 12th and graduation. Everyone around me was winning, getting fat paychecks, buying cars, settling abroad, becoming famous or winning awards. I was pretty much a sore loser as I was always blaming my stars, getting angry at the gods, vowed never to pray again or visit temples and so on. But the alarming part was how it had changed me psychologically. I couldn’t stand the sight of people who had achieved. I was doing everything else rather than INTROSPECT and had allowed my sub-conscious bias to TAKE CONTROL of my life.
I had lost myself in the process of trying to show others that I’m winning. All it took for me to turn my life around was one simple habit. I started to seek the LEARNINGS FROM EACH LOSS. I started to analyse WHAT WENT WRONG and it wasn’t about just that, I then tried to understand if those wrongs were in my control or not.
Losing is really WINNING and that’s why I use this quote very often. It’s not a bad thing at all. Let’s talk about the larger picture, if you win and become complacent, the win itself is a loss going forward as it becomes a temporary win. If you lose and figure out why with a positive and open mindset, it becomes a win forever. I’ll leave you all this week, with one more mantra of mine: PLAN to win, but be PREPARED to accept loss.